How to Cope With Unplanned Pregnancy
Unplanned pregnancies are frequently seen among newly-wed couples as well as those who stop using contraception for various reasons. Plus, a woman may not realize that she’s pregnant until the second or third month.
This is especially true for lactating mothers who already have a feeding baby. undoubtedly, a surprise pregnancy need some changes in your life at various levels that are psychological, physical, relational, and financial. Here are easy-to-apply, sure-fire, panic-reduction tactics to sail through that onslaught of feelings and help you in how to cope with unplanned pregnancies.
Visit The Doctor
As soon as you discover that you’re pregnant, visit a good gynaecologist. Firstly, you would need lab tests to confirm your pregnancy. Secondly, if confirmed, you would need professional. advice on your next move. You will need to know how far along you are in your pregnancy. This is also important if you’re considering termination. If you plan to continue, then learning about your trimester can help you and your doctor know how much time you’ve missed, and the dietary and health precautions you need to take up to compensate for that lost time. If you have thyroid or a gynaecological condition, like PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome), you would need additional advice.
Know Whether You Want to Continue
Termination can be effected up to 20 weeks of gestation, if the couple wants to go for it. Otherwise, doctors usually counsel you to continue the pregnancy, especially if it’s the first or the second child. This is because infertility is on the rise these days due to lifestyle changes, and if a couple decides to terminate the first pregnancy and has difficulty in conceiving again, they end up regretting the decision. The decision though obviously depends upon a full assessment of their status and the woman’s wish.
Master The Panic
It’s natural to feel overwhelmed by the sudden news. You may experience a raised heartbeat, a sinking feeling in the chest, fidgetiness, or a feeling of doom. But you need to remember that all these are physiological responses. Your brain has perceived that there is an upsetting situation and has sent signals to the rest of your body for fight or flight. So what you think of as panic and extreme anxiety is actually the work of these signals. Interrupt this signal cycle. Pay individual attention to the physical sensations in the different zones of your body and register them as just sensations, not anxiety. You’ll see your panic reduce by half in minutes! You’ll also be able to think more clearly as the blood flow will rush back to the thinking centre of your brain.
Identify New Roles
Contrary to the usual belief, you don’t just switch from your current status to that of a mom-to-be. In fact, you merely add on another role. Assuming that hereafter you will only be a mother can feel suffocating as well as a little too daunting. However, if you think of becoming a mom as an additional portfolio and not simply a change of job, right from the initial days of pregnancy, it will turn out to be much easier for you to switch between your other roles.
Initiate ‘Me’ Time
With the addition of a new member in the family, it will be difficult to prioritize your time the way you would want to do and the way you used to do. So start making and practising strategies for some ‘me’ time as soon as you find out that you’re pregnant. Set aside an hour every day and do what you enjoy doing best without interruptions – go for a walk, listen to your favorite music, indulge in a home spa, read, or chat with friends. You may think that you already do all that but believe me, when the baby arrives, you’re most likely to feel guilty about any ‘me’ time. So get into the habit now!
Sort Out The Finances
An unexpected pregnancy translates into unplanned expenditure on medical bills, hospital visits, frequent breaks from work, an attempt to garner a more physical and emotional support system, as well as prenatal and post-natal care for the mother and the baby. So the first and foremost thing you must do is cut down on various discretionary expenditure like eating out, taking frequent vacations, etc. Make a list of the forthcoming expenditure and create a fixed deposit accordingly. Also, have your life and health insurances in place. Proper nominations will ensure that money will go to the rightful owner in case of any mishaps.
Communication is Also Key
A lot of times, couples have very superficial discussions and do not open up about their true feelings simply to avoid altercations. They themselves can be confused about what they really want. In addition, there is an added psychological pressure to please the parents. However, it is crucial that there is absolute honesty about finances. In the end, what you really need to do is to break down the situations into smaller parts and tackle all the fronts in an organized way. Sooner than later, the shock will turn into true joy.