Parents tend to have different approaches when it comes to disciplining their kids and child behaviour. In fact, there are as many philosophies on how to discipline a child as there are parents. However, kids respond to each and every approach based on their age and their readiness to accept things in their own way and parents do not need to rush their discipline-building methods.
It all depends on the child’s developmental stages and parenting methods whether he accepts any rules and parents should adapt to these stages to train their kids accordingly. Here’s how to discipline children in the most appropriate way according to their age.
Disciplining 1-2 Year Olds
Children at this age are curious and want to investigate new things rather than creating mischief. Parents should understand that toddlers at his age do not understand most of the rules and your demands. As they always try to mimic your behaviour and learn by repetitive actions, show good model behaviour and implement repeated actions like making them sit in the cradle every time they try to reach the stairs or open the refrigerator.
By now, children can understand and even learn to comply with your rules. Some of the most common scenarios where they disagree with you include going out when you do not want them to go and watching TV over having dinner. Frequent temper tantrums are also common during this time. If possible, parents should try implementing a time-out according to the child’s age and should also give clear and consistent instructions every time to avoid confusion.
This is the stage where disciplining becomes tough and maintaining a strong bond with the child will rather help a lot in building good behaviour. Threatening and punishment seem to have no effect and you should more rely on encouraging the child for proper behaviour through positive talk. Parents should take the time out to talk about their interests and involve them more in daily tasks. Most importantly, it is always best to reflect good model behaviour and never use profane language.
Now that your kids have become teens, they need to be part of the rule making process. However, parents should be careful about not letting them to set their own rules altogether. They should be given more freedom without becoming too unruly. Staying out with friends and driving on their own, thanks to the newly acquired driving licence, are some of the common scenarios with children at this age. Setting a curfew to reach home at a particular time and allowing them to ride small distances first might help. Parents can bond well with them by understanding their desires and accepting their perspectives which is too important during these times.
Most of the behaviour that children reflect at this age has a lot to do with their hormonal changes and social/peer pressure. The influences can trigger frustration and may even result in tearful tantrums and parents should avoid responding to them with equal emotions. Emotional outbursts are sometimes better dealt after the child has calmed down. Rewarding their good behaviour and letting them know the natural consequences of their behaviour, whether good or bad, has a long way to go in bringing up more disciplined kids.