The Path to Happier Parenting
Positive parenting is about encouraging positive behavior
My son just does not listen! My child is such a fussy eater! My daughter throws tantrums to do her homework! My son has anger issues and throws things! My child is a tiger at home, but is shy and scared in class! Do any of these sound familiar?
Many of the parents often believe that the solution lies in ‘fixing’ their child. But it is not the children who need the fix, it’s you. Here is the path to happier parenting.
Be the Kind of Person You Would Want to be
To reiterate, parenting starts with you; which means that you need to first take care of your own emotional well-being. When you feel good about being ‘you’ – that translates positively into all your roles, including that of a parent. Your willingness to change will smoothen your path to happier parenting. The mantra should be: before I raise my kids, I need to raise myself!
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff
Sometimes it’s important to look at the bigger picture and not over analyze your kid’s milestones! You should not worry if your child does not look like the ones you see in TV commercials. And if your 2-year old is still in diapers, it does not make you a bad parent; it just makes you a parent who believes in practical conveniences! So it’s better to grant yourself and your child, some slack!
Don’t be a Pendulum
The next ingredient to being a better parent is to be consistent! When it comes to disciplining, you cannot afford to be a ‘pendulum’ swinging from being a strict parent to a pushover! Try to set reasonable and clear behavioural goals for your child. This will help them to be self-disciplined and responsible and reduces the chances of you falling into the ‘pendulum parent’ trap!
Don’t Compare With Others
Remember each child and parent is unique. Your responsibility is only to compete with your best version, not with others who you think are better. This also holds true when it comes to your child. Each child is uniquely gifted with his own potentials and promises. Sure, it is always good to learn the ‘best practices’, but you cannot parent well by constantly comparing yourself to others.
Play, Play, Play
Be honest. When was the last time you just played with your kids – simply ran around, played hide-and-seek or laughed over a board game? Most of our parenting roles revolve around ‘supervisory’ activities. Remember, spending time is usually a shared fun interaction, like kicking the ball together, cooking, or cuddling and reading a book.